National Carry Academy
Dating and Concealed Carry Weapons
January 28, 2019
From a strictly legal point of view, your concealed carry permit gives you the right to carry a gun without telling anyone that you’ve got it. However, many embarrassing situations could arise on a date if it is discovered that you not only own a handgun but have brought it along on a date.
Because people have widely differing views on handguns, you could get any number of reactions.
Your date might be reassured of his/her safety because you brought along a weapon. Some dates find a gun a real turn on.
Be prepared for the fact that your date might be horrified, terrified, or grossed out by your being armed. Because you exercised your legal right to carry a concealed weapon, this might be the last date you have with this person.
Also, consider how this news will affect the opinion of your date’s parents.
If you who routinely carry a concealed weapon, dating can raise deep questions and challenges. Let’s explore some of these.
When Should You Disclose this Information?
Perhaps this is not your best conversation opener. Hi. My name is Todd and I am carrying a concealed weapon.
However, in the interests of honesty and openness, this conversation should probably occur sooner than later.
I guess it all depends on how you feel things are going and when the moment feels right.
How do You Raise the Topic?
Many people when asked about this question favor being honest and up front about the issue right from the start. If you disclose this information before the date occurs, it gives the other person a chance to deal with it. If he/she is uncomfortable with it, then the two of you can decide right then and there whether to continue or not. If this is a deal breaker, better to find out early. For some people, having a partner who is unaccepting of a concealed carry weapon is a pivotal issue. It might overshadow many appealing traits of a potential date. Mutual interest in concealed weapons might well be a positive in a relationship.
If things take a romantic turn, the fact that you failed to mention a concealed weapon might make that an awkward moment instead of an intimate one.
A good and natural way to bring up the issue of concealed carry is during the time you and your date talk about your interests. For example: “I like to read, listen to music, go for a run with my dog, and spend time on the gun range.”
What about Blind Dates?
In this era of social media and online dating, the discussion of concealed carry might be approached differently from a more traditional date. These relationships are more uncertain. So, too, should disclosure of a concealed weapon be. Telling a potential partner met online that you have a concealed handgun might actually detract from the sense of security that having a concealed weapon gives you.
On the other hand, if your date turns out to be definitely anti-Second Amendment, not having had this discussion earlier than your date could throw cold water on the future of this relationship.
How to Safeguard your Weapon?
Normally, you’d have a gun safe or a gun room in your house where you could safeguard your weapon. What is dating means you are staying over at your date’s house, someone else’s house or a hotel? Then, you will need a plan for securing your weapon. A trigger lock is one solution. Remember, if children will be present most states have very strict rules about how to store weapons around children. You need to think and plan ahead for such situations.
Final Caveats
When you tell your date you have a concealed carry gun, do not pull it out for her or him to admire! You may be proud of your weapon. You may want to show it off. Suggestion? Invite your date to accompany you to the shooting range somewhere down the road. Even someone who is pro-Second Amendment could feel unsafe around someone she/he just discovered is armed.
Dating and Concealed Carry Weapons
January 28, 2019
From a strictly legal point of view, your concealed carry permit gives you the right to carry a gun without telling anyone that you’ve got it. However, many embarrassing situations could arise on a date if it is discovered that you not only own a handgun but have brought it along on a date.
Because people have widely differing views on handguns, you could get any number of reactions.
Your date might be reassured of his/her safety because you brought along a weapon. Some dates find a gun a real turn on.
Be prepared for the fact that your date might be horrified, terrified, or grossed out by your being armed. Because you exercised your legal right to carry a concealed weapon, this might be the last date you have with this person.
Also, consider how this news will affect the opinion of your date’s parents.
If you who routinely carry a concealed weapon, dating can raise deep questions and challenges. Let’s explore some of these.
When Should You Disclose this Information?
Perhaps this is not your best conversation opener. Hi. My name is Todd and I am carrying a concealed weapon.
However, in the interests of honesty and openness, this conversation should probably occur sooner than later.
I guess it all depends on how you feel things are going and when the moment feels right.
How do You Raise the Topic?
Many people when asked about this question favor being honest and up front about the issue right from the start. If you disclose this information before the date occurs, it gives the other person a chance to deal with it. If he/she is uncomfortable with it, then the two of you can decide right then and there whether to continue or not. If this is a deal breaker, better to find out early. For some people, having a partner who is unaccepting of a concealed carry weapon is a pivotal issue. It might overshadow many appealing traits of a potential date. Mutual interest in concealed weapons might well be a positive in a relationship.
If things take a romantic turn, the fact that you failed to mention a concealed weapon might make that an awkward moment instead of an intimate one.
A good and natural way to bring up the issue of concealed carry is during the time you and your date talk about your interests. For example: “I like to read, listen to music, go for a run with my dog, and spend time on the gun range.”
What about Blind Dates?
In this era of social media and online dating, the discussion of concealed carry might be approached differently from a more traditional date. These relationships are more uncertain. So, too, should disclosure of a concealed weapon be. Telling a potential partner met online that you have a concealed handgun might actually detract from the sense of security that having a concealed weapon gives you.
On the other hand, if your date turns out to be definitely anti-Second Amendment, not having had this discussion earlier than your date could throw cold water on the future of this relationship.
How to Safeguard your Weapon?
Normally, you’d have a gun safe or a gun room in your house where you could safeguard your weapon. What is dating means you are staying over at your date’s house, someone else’s house or a hotel? Then, you will need a plan for securing your weapon. A trigger lock is one solution. Remember, if children will be present most states have very strict rules about how to store weapons around children. You need to think and plan ahead for such situations.
Final Caveats
When you tell your date you have a concealed carry gun, do not pull it out for her or him to admire! You may be proud of your weapon. You may want to show it off. Suggestion? Invite your date to accompany you to the shooting range somewhere down the road. Even someone who is pro-Second Amendment could feel unsafe around someone she/he just discovered is armed.